Two Questions for Turning Your Next Challenge into Your Next Step UP
The challenges of this time are a profound opportunity for personal clearing, healing and growth. Politically, astrologically, environmentally, socially… however you look at it… we are in significant times.
While it might not always feel fun, or comfortable… this year is a profound gift. And it’s up to us if we’ll receive the gifts available to us, or ignore and avoid the change that’s possible.
How we show up for our challenges… our hurt, upset, doubt and fear… is key.
I hope these 2 Questions will support you in taking any challenge and transforming it into the change, manifestation and miracles it holds.
Two Questions for Turning Your Challenge into Your Next Step UP
1. What Is my Emotional Disturbance Begging Me to Receive?
If I were to truly allow and embrace my feelings, my hurt, my upset — what are they begging for?!
If our upset is more along the lines of anger, frustration, blame… it’s going to be powerful to let go of focusing on what you want in the world — and allow yourself to clearly see what You Need Inside of Yourself?
That requires great vulnerability. It requires the courage to feel that we do need love, support, and people.
But in realizing truly what that human emotional need is, at the heart of your challenge — you have a clear pathway to resolving the inner and outer challenge.
How can you give yourself what you need? How can you take care of what you need within, and then focus on what you need to do in the world around you.
When a situation takes us out of balance, we often turn first to: what to fix, change or do in the world.
But if we first: turn within to give ourselves that that we need within, it is wild and wonderful how clear and easy it then seems to take clear and courageous action in the world.
You might find this 4-Step Guide for Feeling for Healing helpful too.
Ok… and so the second supportive question is…
2. How Can I Give Myself What I Need More Consistently?
To the extent that we take responsibility for the experience that we want in life, the Universe will respond and reflect to us the reality that we choose.
Truly. Check this out as your own spiritual experiment.
Whatever upsets you next, really use the first question: What Is my Emotional Disturbance Begging Me to Receive? to clearly identify what you need within.
Some examples to help you lean into this:
If your boss doesn’t appreciate you and is unkind — allow that vulnerable feeling to show you that you need kindness, appreciation and recognition. And then use any moment when you feel this way, particularly in relationship to your boss, to show up and give yourself what you need. When your boss treats you unfairly, show up for yourself in profound kindness, appreciation and loving. Really take the time to tell yourself what you need to hear. Really flood yourself with the hugs, the love and gratitude that you deserve.
If you’re currently feeling afraid about your job, or finances — allow that vulnerable feeling to show you the experience you crave and need right now. Which could be expansion, or peace of mind, or safety and security, or joy and freedom. That inner experience or feeling will be different for different people. It’s not about thinking or figuring this out — but really allowing yourself to feel that fear — and ask that place what do you need — what do you want?! And from that emotional experience — you will know clearly what you need to give yourself within. So if what you need is safety and security — how can you give yourself that imagined experience inside of yourself? If what you crave is freedom and joy — how can you give yourself that experience more and more?
No matter what you need inside — you have the power to give that to yourself. And see what happens when you start to let go of needing others to give you what you need — and give it to yourself…
If you want to really move through your challenges this year — embrace each challenge with both questions.
It’s not easy to do on your own, and that’s why I’m all about vulnerable sharing. We need to surround ourselves with love, support and compassion in order to rise about the challenges of this life. I genuinely believe that. None of us are designed to, or meant to live this life alone.
So take advantage of your loved ones. Talk to them about the hard stuff. Talk to them about what’s challenging and together use your challenges to lift you into the gifts, the strengths and the opportunities they are made for.
I created the Allowing.Love™ intensive for this specific purpose. To create a community to learn the spiritual principles that support us in turning every area of our life into the Love and Success that it is. And to create the real human bonds of friendship and unconditional loving that are the fuel and the support we need along the way.
If you’re intrigued in any way — spend just a minute learning about the program here — zoelumiere.com/ali.
I just have to share what one grad shared…
“I have had the best year (2020) ever.
Massive challenges became massive shifts for the better,
and it’s because of you guys, because of the Allowing.Love™ intensive.”
– Amelia, CO
I mean what have you got to lose — except the fear, doubt and illusions that your challenges are holding you back?!